Working Away

[dannncer]

Keyris has been told that he can get a job up north if he wants, through one of his mums friends.

The money would be excellent and life would be a whole lot easier.

But Im scared that I will miss him too much, especially if he does like 2 weeks away one week home.

Does anyone have a partner that works away and is it hard when they are gone? How do you deal with it? Does it go fast??

Do you think its worth it?

[j-mo]

I say go for it.

[Turbo]

Sometimes in life you have to sacrifice to get ahead. I worked up North for just over 3 years and it allowed me to purchase a property and live a comfortable life.

While you will no doubt miss each other, the financial security may be worth it in the long run. There is no harm in trying, maybe give it 6 months and see how you both handle the lifestyle. Who knows, he may end up not being able to live that lifestyle.

[angelbel]

It takes the right kind of girl to be able to handle her partner working away.
You'll either love the fact that you get time to yourself or you'll hate the fact that you have time away from him.

[dannncer]

Originally Posted by angelbel

It takes the right kind of girl to be able to handle her partner working away.
You'll either love the fact that you get time to yourself or you'll hate the fact that you have time away from him.

I think Ill be a bit of both haha.
Ill be fine and then there will be days where Ill be all like wah I want him haha

[heist]

My mother and sister are both in this position, and have been for about as long as they've had kids. Both have two. Mum did it with fuck all support. She a STRONG inna'pendent woman. Family has my sister's back, but it's still hard for her sometimes.

In some ways, you'll see more of him than if he were working 9-5, but there are obviously extended periods of absence.

Cons: Lack of support, separation anxiety, trust issues.

Pros: Money, Time apart, and when he's home, he's home 24/7.

In the end, for my family, not having to worry about money is such a huge stress lifted, it trumps just about any other concerns.

I'd say go for it. Make hay while the sun shines and you've got a bub that needs a lotta hay.

[jayney bear]

Originally Posted by angelbel

It takes the right kind of girl to be able to handle her partner working away.
You'll either love the fact that you get time to yourself or you'll hate the fact that you have time away from him.

[dannncer]

Originally Posted by heist

Cons: Lack of support, separation anxiety, trust issues.

I have heaps of support, his mum is two houses down haha and my mum is here all the time. My lil bro is living with me now to.
Seperation anxiety this would prob be the worst one.
Trust issues, I trust him, he had a go at his mum the other day apparently when she said to him in a conversation about how cause I have had a baby I may not be feeling as pretty as I normally would and maybe was worried he would be looking at other girls. haha he shut her down.

[heist]

Originally Posted by dannncer

I have heaps of support, his mum is two houses down haha and my mum is here all the time. My lil bro is living with me now to.
Seperation anxiety this would prob be the worst one.
Trust issues, I trust him, he had a go at his mum the other day apparently when she said to him in a conversation about how cause I have had a baby I may not be feeling as pretty as I normally would and maybe was worried he would be looking at other girls. haha he shut her down.

In that case you're probably pretty well equipped to deal with it. Obviously you're not going to be stupendously happy to have your man absent, but it's tolerable.

What about him - will he enjoy the job better than whatever he's doing now?

[dart]

think of all the fried chicken you'll be able to buy with a mining salary

[angelbel]

Originally Posted by heist

Pros: Money, Time apart, and when he's home, he's home 24/7.

That's mostly true. But where I've seen problems start for couples is when the expectation is that when they are home, they must spend every waking minute together. Too many people fail to take into account that when they are home, their partner is also going to want to spend time with their friends and/or family (parents etc).

[Scotty Assassin]

You're gonna need atleast a 21" monitor and a good quality webcam.

[brooa]

always at work and too busy to spend time with you < 1 week in 3 with all his attention devoted too you

[dannncer]

Originally Posted by dart

think of all the fried chicken you'll be able to buy with a mining salary

Yuck.


Heist - He loves the work he does now, but he hates who he works with and where he works and he is really over it.
Everyday he comes home and is like "its so hard not to just walk out".
His boss has him doing so much more than a 2nd year should be doing and he doesnt get anything for it, which I know yes he is an apprentice, but he works prob about 50 hours a week and he is still getting less than $400.
He has been looking for work elsewhere but no where seems to be looking for apprentices at the moment.
Then he saw an ad in the paper about a TA up north for $1700 a week and we spoke about it and he seems really interested.
I mentioned it to his mum and she said she knows someone who plays a major part in one of the mines and could probably get him a job up north if he wanted one.
No idea what it would be doing or anything yet, she doesnt want to call up about it until we are totally sure.

[dannncer]

Originally Posted by angelbel

That's mostly true. But where I've seen problems start for couples is when the expectation is that when they are home, they must spend every waking minute together. Too many people fail to take into account that when they are home, their partner is also going to want to spend time with their friends and/or family (parents etc).

We do everything together now haha.
If we go out, we go out together, if we see my friends we both see my friends, same with his friends. I dunno I love all his friends and probably now class some of them closer than my friends haha.
Its just how we have always been. *shrug*

[dart]

Originally Posted by brooa

always at work and too busy to spend time with you < 1 week in 3 with all his attention devoted too you

"all his attention devoted to you"

yeah that, and he's going to want to get absolutely WRECKED!!


maybe even hit up some

Originally Posted by vapours

drug parties

[Mono Lisa]

Give it a go - you're both young, he's a tradie; if he hates it, or you hate it, or he misses his little girl too much then he can come home and you guys can go back to being how you are now No big deal but better for trying. I'm sure you both know whether your relationship is strong enough and mature enough to give this sort of thing a chance.

[jayney bear]

Originally Posted by angelbel

That's mostly true. But where I've seen problems start for couples is when the expectation is that when they are home, they must spend every waking minute together. Too many people fail to take into account that when they are home, their partner is also going to want to spend time with their friends and/or family (parents etc).

again

[angelbel]

Originally Posted by dannncer

We do everything together now haha.
If we go out, we go out together, if we see my friends we both see my friends, same with his friends. I dunno I love all his friends and probably now class some of them closer than my friends haha.
Its just how we have always been. *shrug*

I've no doubt you do do everything together. But it's a different scenario when one person is working away.
I've seen it happen. I watched my brother's relationship deteriorate once he started working away because she couldn't handle it (of course she was a psycotic bitch too which didn't help )
If you can make it work, fantastic! All I'm saying is that you should be prepare yourself for some potentially serious change, even during the time that he is back home.


jayney - great minds and all that

[brooa]

Originally Posted by dart

"all his attention devoted to you"

yeah that, and he's going to want to get absolutely WRECKED!!


maybe even hit up some

im sure that will apply to both of them

[heist]

Originally Posted by angelbel

That's mostly true. But where I've seen problems start for couples is when the expectation is that when they are home, they must spend every waking minute together. Too many people fail to take into account that when they are home, their partner is also going to want to spend time with their friends and/or family (parents etc).

Good point - I always fail to account for chicks being insane.

[angelbel]

Originally Posted by heist

Good point - I always fail to account for some chicks being insane.

Damn straight.

[Mono Lisa]

For what it's worth I know another young couple who have lived with the guy working away for the last 3 years. They just got engaged. But not without a few bumps in the road along the way. They made it work for themselves though, with some sacrifice and compromise from both parties. If you guys really want to you can too.

[heist]

Originally Posted by dannncer

Yuck.


Heist - He loves the work he does now, but he hates who he works with and where he works and he is really over it.
Everyday he comes home and is like "its so hard not to just walk out".
His boss has him doing so much more than a 2nd year should be doing and he doesnt get anything for it, which I know yes he is an apprentice, but he works prob about 50 hours a week and he is still getting less than $400.
He has been looking for work elsewhere but no where seems to be looking for apprentices at the moment.
Then he saw an ad in the paper about a TA up north for $1700 a week and we spoke about it and he seems really interested.
I mentioned it to his mum and she said she knows someone who plays a major part in one of the mines and could probably get him a job up north if he wanted one.
No idea what it would be doing or anything yet, she doesnt want to call up about it until we are totally sure.

Shit, then it's gotta be worth a shot.

If it turns out he doesn't like it I'm sure it won't be hard for him to find another shitty low paying apprentice job.

[ohdee]

Originally Posted by dart

"all his attention devoted to you"

yeah that, and he's going to want to get absolutely WRECKED!!


maybe even hit up some

Lol keep on trying dude you're neeearly there!